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Monday, November 24, 2008


I have gained 4 pounds in 4 days! Geez louize! Jess and our doctor said it's water weight...which would make once beautiful soccer legs and ankles have become fat and I now have cankles! We had our first Biophysical Profile...everything with Peanut looks awesome. Amniotic fluid is perfect. Heart looks strong. Breathing movements were awesome! We have another BPP next Monday and then the following week we get another set of measurements to see how big she's getting. Peanut was sucking her thumb...still breech...and the doctor also let me know that her being breech is why I'm in so much pain sometimes that I can barely walk.

Tomorrow I'm hoping Jess will take a belly shot. Boy has it gotten HUGE!

9 weeks 4 days and counting

Friday, November 21, 2008

Dr. Phil

Okay so I pretty much dislike Dr. Phil...however today I was flipping through the channels and Dr Phil's topic of the day was differing opinions on the passing of Prop 8. Jess and I are one of those 18,000 couples that married in California between May and November of this year. Jess is all hot and fired up about the passing of Prop 8. She was literally furious the day we found out. I take a more laid back view on the subject...UNTIL...people started throwing around God and religion and telling me, my wife, our kids, and our families that somehow GOD doesn't approve of GOD doesn't want us to be "married" GOD said we are GOD backs their fight that we are second class citizens. I respect that people have different opinions. I respect that we live in a democratic society, therefore allowing different people with different opinions to vote on matters concerning the nation. I do not respect when people mix church and state. My ability as a parent has nothing to do with being gay. My ability as a wife has nothing to do with being gay. My relationship with GOD has nothing to do with being gay. My role as a daughter and sister has nothing to do with being gay.


Thursday, November 20, 2008

30 week appointment

I LOST half a pound over the past two weeks. That's 8 weeks I haven't gained an ounce, in fact I've lost half a pound. I can't say I'm upset about it. Looks like I'm up 6 pounds from pre-pregnancy weight. LOL

Next week we start our weekly biophysical profiles. That's where they measure the amniotic fluid and Peanut to make sure that growth is doing well, but not too large and the fluid levels stay appropriate. So I go back Monday...I'll let you know how that goes.

Colds colds colds...our 6 year old has had a severe cold for 2.5 weeks now and now Jess and Charlotte have the cold. Charlotte is just sniffing a little...but Jess is practically dying with this cold. She's snotty, coughing, sneezing, etc. She can't breathe. She can't sleep. This is making for a fun household. We are very lucky in that the kids sleep 10-12 hours straight at night, even with their colds....maybe they get so worn out during the day running around that they just pass out. Whatever the reason I'm just thankful that God blessed me with two good sleeping children...even if the wifey won't sleep!

Tonight is a little dinner party. We are having 4 friends over to enjoy a lovely low key dinner. I'm happy to see people that are not related to me or that I go to church with. Being a stay at home mom really limits ones ability to interact with different people. Anyway let's hope the dinner goes well tonight and the snotty noses dry up quickly.

Saturday, November 15, 2008

Round 3!

Last night was trip to the hospital round three. I had contractions for 4 hours by the time we ended up at the hospital. They were about 6 minutes apart. I was leaking more fluid that usual. Peanut was thrashing around and hadn't slept in 4 hours.
Got to the hospital, they did a hormone test to see if I would be likely to deliver in the next 2 came back negative. They did a test to see if I was leaking amniotic came back negative as well.
The doctor said some people are just more prone to early contractions and that I need to drink a LOT more water. If I have another episode I'll be put on strict bed rest.

Friday, November 14, 2008

29 weeks

Today we are 29 weeks preggo!

We went for our 3D sonogram on Wednesday. The kids cames, Jess' mom was there, my dad was watching and listening via the web from Arkansas, and Jess' brother was watching and listening via the web from Chicago. Delaney was a little stinker and would not cooperate. She is a position where her bottom is low and she's got her legs completely extended directly in front of her body, her toes are in her eyes and her hands are folded in front of her face. She did not want to show us her face. I got up and literally jumped around and she didn't budge. The sonographer literally beat my stomach with her little sono tool and she didn't budge. We got to count 10 fingers and 10 toes. We saw her face in exactly one shot over the entire hour. She's got little chunky cheeks already. She has fat little thighs. She's perfect. We can't wait to meet her! Since I have GD she won't be delivered after 39 weeks so that only leaves 10 weeks left!!!!!!!

Monday, November 10, 2008

Any ideas?

Okay so as many of you may know I've been in the hospital twice in the past 4.5 weeks for bleeding and preterm labor. Every single time I've been hooked up to the big ole machine that tells you the baby's heart beat and contractions...I have little bleeps about every 7-15 minutes...they last about 15 seconds and it just feels like someone is pushing on my uterus. Well since this last little hospital visit I've been having these huge, painful, take my breath away uterine contraction type things. Since I've never had a baby before I'm not sure what the heck these things are. Jess didn't ever really have these types of things either. I'm not sure if they are contractions or round ligament pain or her moving or whatever. They have been occuring between 6:00-6:30 p.m.. They happen 3-9 times by 8:00p.m. and then they go away. This happens almost every single night. Anyone have any ideas? Do you think this is of concern? My doctor gave me vistaril and ambien to help me sleep during these episodes. She doesn't seem concerned at all. At what point do I call the doctor on call or do I just ignore them?

Friday, November 7, 2008

Melissa says it best!!!

You Can Forget My Taxes

by Melissa Etheridge


BS Bottom - Etheridge Prop 8
Singer Melissa Etheridge rails against the passage of the gay-marriage ban in California—and she won't be paying the state a dime.

Okay. So Prop 8 passed. Alright, I get it. 51% of you think that I am a second class citizen. Alright then. So my wife, uh I mean, roommate? Girlfriend? Special lady friend? You are gonna have to help me here because I am not sure what to call her now. Anyways, she and I are not allowed the same right under the state constitution as any other citizen. Okay, so I am taking that to mean I do not have to pay my state taxes because I am not a full citizen. I mean that would just be wrong, to make someone pay taxes and not give them the same rights, sounds sort of like that taxation without representation thing from the history books.

Okay, cool I don't mean to get too personal here but there is a lot I can do with the extra half a million dollars that I will be keeping instead of handing it over to the state of California. Oh, and I am sure Ellen will be a little excited to keep her bazillion bucks that she pays in taxes too. Wow, come to think of it, there are quite a few of us fortunate gay folks that will be having some extra cash this year. What recession? We're gay! I am sure there will be a little box on the tax forms now single, married, divorced, gay, check here if you are gay, yeah, that's not so bad. Of course all of the waiters and hairdressers and UPS workers and gym teachers and such, they won't have to pay their taxes either.

Gay people are born everyday. You will never legislate that away.

Oh and too bad California, I know you were looking forward to the revenue from all of those extra marriages. I guess you will have to find some other way to get out of the budget trouble you are in.


When did it become okay to legislate morality? I try to envision someone reading that legislation "eliminates the right" and then clicking yes. What goes through their mind? Was it the frightening commercial where the little girl comes home and says, "Hi mom, we learned about gays in class today" and then the mother gets that awful worried look and the scary music plays? Do they not know anyone who is gay? If they do, can they look them in the face and say "I believe you do not deserve the same rights as me"? Do they think that their children will never encounter a gay person? Do they think they will never have to explain the 20% of us who are gay and living and working side by side with all the citizens of California?

I got news for them, someday your child is going to come home and ask you what a gay person is. Gay people are born everyday. You will never legislate that away.

I know when I grew up gay was a bad word. Homo, lezzie, faggot, dyke. Ignorance and fear ruled the day. There were so many "thems" back then. The blacks, the poor ... you know, "them". Then there was the immigrants. "Them.” Now the them is me.

I tell myself to take a breath, okay take another one, one of the thems made it to the top. Obama has been elected president. This crazy fearful insanity will end soon. This great state and this great country of ours will finally come to the understanding that there is no "them". We are one. We are united. What you do to someone else you do to yourself. That "judge not, lest ye yourself be judged" are truthful words and not Christian rhetoric.

Today the gay citizenry of this state will pick themselves up and dust themselves off and do what we have been doing for years. We will get back into it. We love this state, we love this country and we are not going to leave it. Even though we could be married in Mass. or Conn, Canada, Holland, Spain and a handful of other countries, this is our home. This is where we work and play and raise our families. We will not rest until we have the full rights of any other citizen. It is that simple, no fearful vote will ever stop us, that is not the American way.

Come to think of it, I should get a federal tax break too...

Melissa Etheridge is an Academy Award-winning and Grammy Award-winning singer-songwriter.

Snowmen, Oh how I love them!

Jess ordered Peanut pink snowman robees yesterday! :) I'm so excited to get those little shoes in...not only are they cute but they'll help keep her socks on and feet warm. Today Children's Place emailed me with their new pjs. They have SNOWMEN pjs for babies. They even have a deal, 3 pjs for $30. I want the pink one in 0-3 month, the purple one in 3-6 month, and the white one in 12 month. How cool is that going to be! I'm so excited...just needed to share.
Here's the link to the page in which these adorable pjs are on.

28 weeks!

We are 28 weeks pregnant today! Woohoo I'm done with my 7th month of pregnancy. We went to the doctor this week and were told that my placenta has moved but it not out of the "worry zone" yet. We're crossing our fingers that it continues to move up. Right now Peanut's little bum is just sitting right on top of it. She is very active in there...likes to kick...especially at night. She measured at 2.5 pounds at our appointment on November 4th. Next week is our big 4D sonogram! :)

All of our G Diapers are in now! :) I am so excited. We have two orange, cream, pink, green, and blue. We ordered them off of ebay, they came with lots of liners, and they were much cheaper. We also ordered a bag last week that is pink and green and got Peanut's name embroidered on it. She'll be able to use it to travel during her first year (trips planned to Mexico, Arkansas, Columbia, MO, Chicago, and maybe Colorado (Estes Park)). She'll also be able to use it for many years in the future. We are excited for her. We can't wait to hold her and cuddle her. We are just getting so anxious and excited!!!!!!

We are very excited about Obama being elected as our next president. We are saddened by Arizona and Florida choosing to vote for hate legislation. I am personally disappointed in my home state of Arkansas that now says gay people cannot adopt or be foster parents. I pray that Arkansas can open it's eyes and realize gay people are loving parents and great, caring foster parents. Jess and I are enraged at the passing of Prop 8. We got married in Ventura, CA on August 18th of this year. Ventura county was one of the many counties that passed a ban on gay marriage. We just don't understand how it affects anyone but us (all gay people). We pray that some how the lawyers can figure out a way to overturn it and if that can't happen we pray that part of the change that Obama promises will reflect in anti-hate and discrimination legislation.

Jess and I are currently in a Wide is God's Welcome bible study at church. It's purpose is to teach against the scripture that is used to justify hating gay people. We have a bible study of about 15 people, Jess and I are the only actual gay members. It is really exciting to be a part of this. We also ordered a daily devotional for our children and for us (the one for us is a gay and lesbian one). We are excited to grow our faith walk without discrimination and fear.