Best Friends

As we started our journey to having children Jess and I dreamed of finding other gay families with children. We wanted the support for us...to walk the path of an alternative family. We did this through fertility friend and blogs. We connected with friends through the internet. That community has come in VERY handy through our time of trying to get pregnant, having a miscarriage, losing our twin, the birth of delaney, her first hospital stay, and every single problem and triumph since then. These women have offered prayers, services, food, money, love, and even some tshirts :) The embrace that we feel from this group of lesbian moms and moms-to-be is unreal.

We have a few friends in person too and our friends are the first to contact us with prayers with we are struggling and cheer for us when we are celebrating. They have attended our baby shower, birthday parties, house warming parties, soccer games, play dates, and dinners. These people (and you know who you are) are so vital in our emotional health.

Family sends love and support always. They send care packages, make uplifting phone calls, entertain the big girls while D is at appointments or in the hospital, help with food and gas for far off appointments, and they love our kid.


And then...then there is this little girl...we'll call her P. And her mom..we'll call her K. This little girl is probably the BIGGEST support we have found in everything to do with Delaney. From milestones to specialists to hospitals to phone calls and skyping. She will be 4 in August. She is simply amazing. She is MY daughter 2.5 years from now. She and Delaney literally share every single symptoms, bad day, struggle, triumph, smile, blonde hair, hilarious personality, loving nature, and inner fight. I have never felt more of a need for one of our children to find a friend than I have with Delaney. I want her to know that her being different makes her special and not weird. I want her to know she isn't alone. I want her to know someone that TRULY understands how she feels. For Jess and I, I think it's been a life changing experience to have another parent set that is going through fighting all the same battles. We can help one another, talk to one another, laugh and cry with one another. I read books to P on skype almost every day (except when one kid or the other is at an appointment or in the hospital) and she reads books to me. We have dance parties with D and P listening to music and moving around. We have late night chats when P is feeling sick or sad or when D is up late wheezing or with fever. We talk about how P feels different but it's okay because D is too. We have talked about being a princess and P even gives advice on how to help Delaney ("those tubes make your nose itchy so make sure you scratch her nose sometimes"). This family and this little girl were sent to meet up with our path by God...there is no other explanation. K and P are vital to our family and we all love their whole family very much.

So thank you...our support group. Thank you for the phone calls, the prayers, the time, the thoughts, the fun playdates, the skyping, and the donations. Seeing how many people love our little girl like we do is so beyond moving. You will honestly never know what you mean to our family...